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Bearings in Action
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This is a space where we can share moments when we've recognized how the Bearings were successful for us and the people with whom we work. It's important to share real stories where we've recognized the significance of the Bearing. We can document our results as a way of reinforcing the ideas and strategies in the Bearings, and to reflect on those ideas and strategies.
| MD: Bearing: Relationships/Self-concept - I had two students who were verbally and physically hurting each other. I needed to help them stop doing that. I could have punished, threatened, bribed or coerced them, and would have probably only seen short-term results. If I had done any of those things, I would also have put myself farther away from them in our relationship. When we met together, I wanted three things to happen. I wanted them to accept responsibility that they were hurting each other, acknowledge that the behavior was unacceptable enough to warrant a change, and figure out on their own what the change would be. I, and my principal, asked a lot of questions, such as, "Do you think he may have been hurt by what you said? Are there ways we can help you solve the problem? Does the problem occur in certain areas? Are there areas where the conflict never occurs? Are there things that happen that help the conflict to happen?" After about 20 minutes of questioning and guiding the students, they were able to come up with a solution. In the future if one of them starts to joke around with the other, and the other one doesn't want to banter because he's not in the mood, he will say a phrase or code word that will let the joking student know that he should leave the other student alone for awhile. There are other decisions we could have made to stop the problem, and their decision may not work. The important thing is that they saw that what they had been doing was hurtful, and they acknowledged that something should be done to help it stop happening. They took ownership of their behaviors and took responsibility in trying to change them. Furthermore, they problem solved for themselves. They decided what might work for them. Not only do they buy into it more because they created it, and now they see themselves as people capable of solving their own problems. Their self-concepts were enhanced, and not defeated. |
Bearings in Action
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